By Erica Applewhite


You may have heard these quotes…

“Your husband needs your respect more than he needs you love.”
“You were not created to compete with your husband, but to complete him”
“Behind every great husband is an encouraging wife”
“Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.”
“Marriage is a gift to God, the quality of our marriage is our gift to Him”

“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”  Ephesians. 5:33 (NIV)

What is God saying to us in regards to our husbands?

He’s saying respect them, reverence them, treasure, honor and hold them dear…
He’s saying allow him to lead and be adaptive to his leadership. That’s not me telling you; it’s God.

We are the atmosphere in our home and this is not something light; this is our direct charge from God. He gave us the authority to set the atmosphere–to set the environment, mood and the influence in our home.

If God gave you the authority to set the atmosphere, what kind of mood are you setting in the home?

Do you always have an attitude?
Are you always pointing out your husband’s faults and shortcomings?
Are you harboring on what your husband gives is never enough?
Are you the nice-nasty wife who cuts with your tongue?
Are you a negative, always have to be right type of wife?
You don’t even have to say anything…do your gestures and actions reflect your attitude?

You cannot influence your home when you walk in that spirit.  You can’t build your husband if you are always critical of him, and you can’t empower if you patronize him.

God charged us to exemplify the fruit of the spirit in our marriage, to create a God-glorifying environment. (Galatians 5:22-23)

In Genesis 2:18, God knew that man was going to need help, so He created us to complement our husbands. However, we do not complement our husbands or give them value if we speak against them.

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord;
    keep watch over the door of my lips. Psalm 141:3 (NIV)

Your role is importanteven when your husband gets on your nerves don’t say what your flesh wants to say.

Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 15:4 (NLT)

Speak in way that builds to your husband, it gives him life.

The wise woman builds her house [on a foundation of godly precepts, and her household thrives],
But the foolish one [who lacks spiritual insight] tears it down with her own hands [by ignoring godly principles]. Prov 14:1 (AMP)

If you find yourself not respecting your husband, know that you are influencing your entire household.  Therefore, be mindful of the words you speak to your husband, be intentional about the life you speak to your husband because you are the thermostat in your marriage!


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